How to know if they’re the one? Travel with them
TRAVELING and relationships have two things in common, they can be incredible but also hard work.
When you throw both into the pot and head off on your travels with the person you’re in a relationship with, expect to create unforgettable memories alongside new hardships.
We’re not talking about a two-week vacation together. We mean packing a rucksack, entrusting your plants to a neighbor, and heading to the airport not knowing when you’ll return.
But you shouldn’t let traveling into the unknown deter you from booking the trip of a lifetime because spending a prolonged amount of time together will reveal whether you’re destined to be together.
“If you have someone you think is the one, take them and travel around the world. Buy a plane ticket for the two of you to travel all over the world, to places that are hard to reach and hard to get out of,” Ghostbusters actor Bill Murray said at a bachelor party in 2014.
“And when you land at JFK and you’re still in love with that person, get married.”
However, before you book those one-way tickets make sure you’re both as excited as each other for the trip ahead. Without this mutual lust for adventure, you could end up hitting your first hurdle and feeling as though you’re dragging him or her around the world.
Still, you should brace yourself for a few hissy fits along the way.
Here are five common trials traveling couples encounter and how to not let them spoil a trip.
Loss of personal space
Whether you’re already living together or not, the lack of personal space is a challenge every traveling couple endures.
Being together 24 hours a day can put a strain on your relationship especially if you’re used to spreading your time across friends, family, and work.
If you feel yourself getting frustrated at the mere presence of your partner, explain you want a few hours to yourself, to get lost in your thoughts, a good book, or a new Netflix series.
Agree to meet up later for a drink or dinner once you’re feeling refreshed.
Lack of privacy
This is a byproduct of decreased personal space and can lead to a few embarrassing moments such as hearing each other go to the bathroom or not being able to have a moan about one another on the phone to friends.
But then again, taking the negativity of complaining about someone out of your life could give you a new perspective on how to handle problems.
And secondly, everyone goes to the toilet. Remember, it’s nothing to be embarrassed about.
Looking for someone to blame
Human nature dictates someone is always to blame. But if you feel the need to say, “This is your fault” or “I told you so”, don’t – it won’t solve anything.
It’s not as though they’ve got you lost on purpose or deliberately delayed a flight, for example.
Just help each other look for a solution to the problem.
Next level jealousy
You may not consider yourself a jealous person but traveling can temporarily alter that.
Traveling often means meeting new people and forming new friendships.
But this could lead to a hint of jealousy because your other half has been talking to a hottie sat around the hostel table for a little too long.
If you feel yourself turning a nasty shade of green, stop and remember that this person chose to dedicate months of their life to travel with you.
While money worries can occur in everyday life, they’re highlighted when traveling.
Whether it’s because your partner decides to blow half of your daily budget on a gold-leaf ice cream or to go first-class on the sleeper train, money will undoubtedly be bone of contention.
Ease this worry by creating a shared account and each deposit the same amount. Then, create daily budgets depending on what you want to do.
Secondly, keep your money separate but frequently communicate on how much you have left and how you want to spend it.
Ultimately, you’re going to discover a lot of new things about your partner.
Hopefully, you’ll be pleasantly surprised by how much you can still love someone even after you’ve seen them be ill from both ends, listened to them snore for four months straight, and witness them wear the same pair of underpants for three days in a row because there’s no laundry service.
Just remember to embrace your liberation from the monotonous routine of life back home and most importantly, embrace each other.